A Note to the Love of My Life

Below is a book I want to share with you. I was recommended to read this book very recently, and given all the challenges we have had of late, I felt yesterday it was a good time to read it.

When you finish reading my words on this page, you can find the book by clicking the image of the book below:

I read the book yesterday and today, and highlighted stuff I felt was important and specifically applied to our relationship, and things we have done to each other that has hurt us, and/or things we’ve fallen short of doing that would’ve been helpful for each other.

Here’s how to understand my highlights in order of importance and consideration with which you should read the words, from least to most important:

  • NON-HIGHLIGHTED (least importance)
  • YELLOW
  • YELLOW w/underline
  • PINK
  • PINK w/underline
  • BLUE
  • BLUE w/underline (most importance)


Me sharing this book with you is NOT meant to be an attack, and I think you’ll quickly realize that once you begin reading it. It is a “golden goose” – something enlightening for me that The Universe has gifted US, that is perfect for what we need right now in our relationship.

Read this book. Take it deeply.

As deeply as anything I’ve ever given you. It should only take you just a couple hours to read, because it is short and simple (And if the english is a challenge for you, feel free to translate the parts you don’t understand – it is REALLY important you understand what I have shared).

Happy National Girlfriend Day. I’m sorry that this is how we have to celebrate it. <3 Love, Seth

My "Peace Note" – To You

Sthef, Baby, My Love, My Sun Moon & Stars

I just want to have peace with you. I just want to have a peaceful relationship with you.

I want to let go of all the past stuff, start anew, and wipe the slate clean, so that we can be US again, and moving forward, we can handle our stuff in a VERY different way that allows us to be more authentic to our feelings, while also being more responsible to how we are affecting each other, and how we CAN affect each other, both in a positive way, and a negative way, so that we can always do EVERYTHING we can, to be able to give each other the love that we BOTH deserve.

We are in this TOGETHER.

So, what I want you to do, is this…

Take the time you needed, and asked for. It was wrong and selfish of me to deny you that time, and I did so out of feeling insecure that you’d never come back. But I know now, that you need it, and that we need it.

Today is Thursday. Take until Monday.

I will still be here for/with you, and you can text & call me anytime. We just need to honor the space you asked to have for US – for our relationship.

BUT…

DON’T take this time to run away. DON’T take this time to escape.

Use that time for US.

Use that time to read this book.

Read the book, and think about it – DEEPLY.

And then write down EVERYTHING you’d like to discuss with me on Monday.

It doesn’t have to be a letter – it can be a list of thoughts and feelings and events that you’d like to talk about – both things you feel I have done that has hurt YOU, as well as things you feel YOU have done that have hurt ME.

And be honest with yourself. If there’s 100 things you feel I did wrong to you, and only 2 things you feel you did wrong to me – FINE. If there’s 100 things you feel you did wrong to me, and only 2 things you feel I did wrong to you – FINE.

This is NOT about keeping score, or keeping track of who has done what – because, when we finish, we will burn everything – so write it on pen and paper.

The reason why I want you to keep it to a list of ideas rather than a fully thought out and written letter, is because, after you read this book, and give it a lot of thought over the next few days, I want us to REALLY COMMUNICATE on a deep level, in a new way, and I feel we should do that via the spoken word.

During these days while we are taking this time, please, if you really love me the way you do, and love being with me the way you say you do, then use this time to do an act of service for our relationship – and YES – I need you to CHOOSE to view caring about US as an act of SERVICE for our relationship – not because for me, or because I’m asking you to do it so you have to do what I say, or because I am trying to control you, but rather, because it is an ACT OF SERVICE for our relationship – to you, to me, and most importantly, to US.

So, now that you have read my “Peace Note”, I need you to do the following:

1) Make me a pinky promise that you will do what I asked above.

2) Make me a pinky promise that we will be okay after these few days, and that you and I are going to come out the other side of this – stronger than ever – because you want US to be US again, just like I do.

3) Make me a pinky promise that you will not ask to see me in person again or try and talk to me about any of the challenges we have had as a couple, until you feel you can do so in a calm and loving way, as it is taught in this book.

4) Make me a pinky promise that when you do see me, you will be READY to COMMUNICATE with me – not just the day we meet again, but rather, on that day, and every day after that, for the rest of our lives, and that you will be READY to both SHARE with me how you feel in a loving way, and LISTEN to how I feel in a loving way – Always.

I love you, and I want to be with you for the rest of my life, because you are my girl, and even though I know we need these few days to do this for our relationship, I already miss you more than I can possibly imagine, and my heart hurts so badly – for letting us get to this point, and not being a better leader, a better role model, a better boyfriend, and a better man – for me, for you, and for us.

I Love You My Rainbow.